The New York Times consulted with top marriage and relationship experts and here are their top 11 questions to ask yourself, and your partner, before filing:
1.Have you both clearly stated your concerns about the relationships?
2. Do you and your spouse have shared expectations about the roles you play in the relationship?
3. If there was a way to save the marriage, what would it be?
4. Would you really be happier without your partner?
5. Do you still love them?
6. What is your biggest fear in ending the relationship?
7. Are you letting the prospect of divorce ruin your self-image?
8. How can a divorce be handled to minimize the harm on the children?
9. Are you prepared for the financial stresses divorce may bring?
10. Am I ready to handle the day-to-day details of living that my spouse took care of?
11. How do I keep from making the same mistake the next time around?
If you find yourself asking these questions and want some additional support, talk to a friend, family member, or go see a counselor as a true neutral party.